Be Yourself !!!

 I dont know! i really really dont know !!!!!!

 

 kuch aisi do rahe pe ruk gayi hai zindagi, ke left jaye right jaye kuch pata hi nahi chal raha hai....

 

 par aur ek rasta hai...keep going straight....hummmmm but if that was the case then i shouldnt have been facing the crossroad right???

 

 its only me who will make sense out of this entry but i have to take it out of my system... ;-))

 

 well lets see what path i choose and lets see where it takes me...

 

 

once you read this entry you will understand the relationship beween the title of this entry & the category ...

 

well, i came to Dubai in Sep 1999 simply because love of my life was living in this country. Although i had some financial reasons as well to move here however i still had a chance to more to London too, so i guess it was not much to do with money...as always love is always blind :-)

 

just when my finances were getting settled i almost lost my job....well why almost, indeed i lost my job. well call it my luck, i got another job in 2 weeks time and by 2001 I made sure all my financial issues were taken care off. i decided to chill & just then i was asked to move out of my place, having no savings and no permanent job i didnt know what to do plus i didnt know anyone in this part of the world & most people come here with intention of making money ...also love of my life was located in a different city so there was no chance of moving in with him.....

 

in such times i decided to move in my own apartment (ofcourse Dubai then had no concept of buying property so it was rented), i barely 1 month rent and that uncle was nice enough to take post dated cheques....(which would have bounced if Temp staff did not get salary on time) and in deed next month i got late salary, i was lucky again i by then impressed my finance manager (ofcourse he was impressed with my work) so had good relation that he spoke to pay roll and got not only my salary but i also got 2000 AED advance :)) thanks to him.

 

so rent was sorted, upon request uncle deposited check only the salary was sorted.....then comes peek summer ..rising temp..appx 45 - 50C, and no AC in the house as i had no money.....that was firsttime in my life (after i started working) i called my parents and asked them to send me 10000 Rs which was then appx AED 800/-, i was so ashamed of asking 10000 Rs not that my parents felt bad but i just couldnt take the fact that i am suppose to support them ...wellllllll

 

well although with all ups and downs i was the most happiest person in this world simply because i was just 2 hours drive away from love of my life......nothing absolutely nothing bothered me.....no money, no AC, no food, there was a day when i had no money at all to but anything and i drank a glass of milk and slept but i think of those days and it brings smile on my face and at that point i was so happy and content having nothing at all...................

 

well, 2001, finally i got permanent in my job, and then onward i had no issues with my bank balance, in 8 months in year Aug 2008 i bought a house in India and my parent moved into the new house....that was one sense of achievement i had when i saw the smile on their face :)) specially my dad, i can never never never ever forget the enthu he had to move there, although we all were very very sad to leave our old house....where we were brought up.....we had amazing memories of that house ..the bond we had cannot be described......

 

(well i am not writing my auto-biography ...read and u will understadn what i mean)

 

aug 2008 i got married too, and we both again had financial commitments back home, slowly "living in Dubai" was then was for money only......i think if it was not for money then we could have stayed anywhere...& ofcourse India was just 2 hours away.....slowly i started to see how people were transiting this place....it was a hopping place....though there were many who were here for years but still... Everyone's main goal was to make as much money as they can and then have back up in their home country.  I can understand coz this place doesnt give any other benifits......(i dont think i need to mention any details here)

 

Unfortunately, over last few years even that assosiation with Dubai is lost, 2002 was the first time Emmar launched free hold property concenp in this region....and since then "RENT" has taken away smiles from many faces.....not that what this place did was wrong but it was out of propotion and it was also not done gradually. the relation to "RENT" was like of "HUNGER" .....i know if things dont suit you, its better one leaves it but its easier said then done....

 

there are no human rights, laws, clear distinguish between people based on nationality & race (although noone agrees but its true, how many property ad that you see where u see people with brown skin.....95% of ads have white skin people, difference in salary package although 2 diff people did the same job). Also HUNGER of being the first & the biggest had a big impact on life of many. It is not a complain, its just another perspetive, while it gave many people an opportunity it also gave grief which cannot be overlooked or denied.

 

as mush as people loved staying here for many different reasons, few loved the sunny weather, some liked the idea of not paying tax, money, calling up a grocery guy just to deliver lemons....many left for just main 3 reasons a) could not afford to live b) no long term benifit from the country 3) career exposure was no where close to international standards. interesting noone wanted to work on this to hold people back from going coz there are more willing to get in....

 

But i guess the time has changed, this is not the state any more. As they say action is louder than words. i am sure the right people are noticing it, property market came into existence in this region for handful reasons and one of that was to attract people & get them to invest  & make a mark on the map.....i guess it again high time for them to realise that

their vision was turning into reality but mission did not complete as desired. doing things in community interest will always have good returns but it was way toooooooooooooooo selfish....i can only term it as "GREED".

 

each time i have to look for a house i feel sad but i have been feeling sad for last 3 months just by hearing whats going on globally & i feel even more sad to know that probably this place could have avoided the degree of impact only if they grew steadily & gradually unlike the steep line....they could have again touched lives by not downsizing only if they did not over estimated their vision. leaders need to know that if their dreams have adverse effect on their people then its not worth having that vision fulfilled.

 

i heard people loose their jobs, i felt so bad....i know probably that was the right thing to do so that they can support  & survive the rest but i think there was some room to reduce the degree of impact.....Dubai touched my life 10 years ago and i hope it again touches my life and many more peoples life. Last 10 years i have been having this attachment & relationship with this place and when (if) i leave i dont want to ever go with a scar....i just hope the conditions improve again for everyone and all people who had to leave coz they could not affort to pay rent, pay school fees or few who lost their jobs are back in town soon....

 

last but not least, mid jan i suddenly saw improvement in traffic jam and i was so happy that i didnt have to get up early & still reach in time to work. But believe me happiness did not last for long i felt bad & started to miss cars on the road....i do get frustarted but i am glad they still have a job.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have few things on my mind and they have been on my mind for a long time now...

 

1. Fews things are stalled and now I am getting not only impatient but also worried about it

Some are beyond my control nd hence I have take wait & watch approach, and have started to work on plan B if outcome is not as desired.

 

2. on some i have partial control & i can influenece to an extent but again part of it has great dependency on others (which are beyond by control)

so again in this case i have my time limits ...if i dont see results i switch to plan B

 

3. some i have now taken over control without letting others know and it is working most of the times....but this is only 10% of all issues.....& it cannot change 90% issues faced in first two scenarios. But i am managing it for a while.

 

so basically the bottom line is, unfortunately it seems i will have to kick in plan B.....and i am so very confident of that. Although i would to go with plan A (having everyone involved and make sure it works in everyones favour) but time is the essence.....so if it calls for plan B, i will go ahead.....

 

 

i always knew it but recently there are more and more incidents which are prooving that i do intimidate men having inferiority complex.

There few common things that i found in such men are,

 

1. They think they are never wrong

2. They also claim to be who they or how they are is because of you not being what you should be with them.. (so basically u & ur actions are responsile for who they and are and what they are)

3. They never want to have two way commununication, as soon as u look receptive towards feedback or willing to do any adjustment to improve situations they will never want to hear anything about themselves so basically you CHANGE  yourself

4. I find them without DIRECTION & that is because they dont know what they want.....they lack VISION,

5. Sometimes many of them do have vision but their biggest drawback is ......... their inability to take DECISION, due to this they do not even take RESPONSIBILITY and always looking for someone whom they can blame. They also put you in a situation & allow you to take decision which sometimes is not supported by them & ultimately they put you in the SPOT.

6. Thought they may sound constructive, YES is all what they want from you whther you agree or disagree with them

7. They need to be treated like a child all the time, you have to watch your words and "PASSIFY" them

 

Now I do intimidate such people, specially men coz they have another different trait called "EGO"...

 

also coz I KNOW.....

1. what i want

2. how to get what i want

3. how make DICISSION & take RESPONSIBILITY even when things go wrong

4. i am loud, outspoken & i do make sense

5. i have attitude which they dont have, i dont have complex

6. i am a critic who can take critisism

7. i hate to passify egoistic people

 

and i will not deny, i like to put them in the SPOT sometimes coz after all i am normal human being how much can i take ......

 

END.......

 

 

 

Its been long I wrote anything, today I feel like sharing my views on differences.....in various aspects of life

 

Infact I think I want to only highlight that there is no really need for people to add unnecessary differences in their personal life

i.e. having intercast or inter- religion marriages......I now understand completely when parents use to say dont get married in the family who is either way to high or low financially or don't get married into a family with different religious believes etc etc

 

coz in anycase,  marriage itself is big change in an individuals life and which brings difference & change in many ways so why add toppings?

thought it may sound easy or in the stride peopel say its love and we will pull it through, it simply makes it even more difficult to adjust or accept.

only over a period of time people realise that u are not just making normal adjustments that u need to make i the married life but by having toppings people start to make compromises in life, with them selves, relationship...and it definately impact your personality, who you are, your thinking perception sometimes even identity...

 

Whatever said adn done expectations are like your shadow, it may vary in size but noone is selfless and no one is importal not to feel or expect anything.

 

Kehete hai ki Insaan chate  to bahot kuch badal sakta hai, kuch chah kar bhi nahi badal sakate, kuch badal sakte hai phir bhi nahi badal te. Kuch rishtey kuch jazbaat kuch decisions can change dynamics lekin pata nahi kisi kaun sa khayal rok leta hai, pata nahi aab kaun sa tumara decision kis jindagi ko kis tarah badal de (for bad or for worse OR for good...god only knows)....

 

I knew that i stopped my self from believe in god adn the reason why and i kind of made my self convience that he doesnt exist. But in last few weeks i have felt the need to go a little bit spiritual just to find peace within me.....so i dont know what does it mean.....but yes i also said that even id god exists he is not as power as we think adn that i kind of still believe....i guess if i did not have inter-religion marriage then i am sure i still must be believing in god.

 

You hold back yourself from so manythings so that other lifes are not affected by your believes but in that process you kill your self, u loose your exististance you just LIVE & rest is simply materialistic pleasures of life.....

 

even if courage exists, your daring act can damage lives and so people look weak, who knows what is right & what is wrong....just got to be STRONG....

 

END

 

 

 

 

 

Aaj ke samachar kuch is tarah hai....yeh aankho dekha haal hai....

a. teams are heading with heads who have lost in coming to work...
b. there is only politics and everyones +ve or encouraging words are just the screen savers.....
c. Some are promoted after years of prooving themselves where they  now have a different  title and salary but doing the same work.....
d. challenging work is given to all new blood.......
e. some people are still in line....waiting for their promotion annoucement.....
f. some have resigned and cant even tell the real reason.......although  where work environment is the real reason.
g. there is always hidden agenda.
h. unrealistic expectations...

everyone keeps talking about trust, positive attitude blah blah blah too sad when people have failed or still stuggling hard for their own rights how can they motivate a team of and give them hope or assurance that if prooven they will also be noticed and rewarded.....

people reporting to you must look up to you but most of the people have failed to potray that image.....

Whether anyone believes or not.....and for sure no one has guts to speak up.....although in smaller groups everyone talks about it.
a. u need to butter your boss and be in good terms with your boss (in another words ass licking, this is what exactly people say)
b. recuiting ppl without experience, only based on competency has created even worse effect. (where they actually had people within with experience)

well i guess this is the corporate world....if u dont like it leave it.........
change job and enjoy hopping than feeeling this way.....

 

:))))))

 

Only if i knew .....i would have never done that

Only if i knew .... i woukd have some something else

Only if i knew .... i would have done that

 

Only if i knew ..... i would have been somewhere else

 

How we keep thinking such things sometime in our life....

But the moment of true lies in, knowing that u now know it....so do u best today...

 

Not many get a second chance, one cannot undo or relive all/ some experiences of life.....

 

________________________

 

I read it on someones blog...things that he would like to do in his life....and even i have so many things on my mind

 

Just a few

good night everybody  

 

 

 

 

I have mixed feelings today, this morning I got myself into something and I am looking forward to it....i was happy with what i did...:-)

 

That was end of good part of the day.....

 

After work i went to drop my car for servicing...and then shopping...off let i have been shopping a lot....

i think, i have been looking for happiness and sometime with myself. I know shhopping is not something that i am looking for to make me happy but i still do.

and i have decided to stop shopping for sometime now...

 

there is something missing in life.....i cried a lot today, dont ask why coz even i dont know.....all that i could write was this

 

" dil me itna tha toofan phir bhi koi shor nahi tha "

 

i couldn't even finish writing or expressing what i was feeling......i am missing some people in my life....i have lost them in this journey of life... :-(

it hurts.......some have lost me .......

 

...................................

 

 

 

There is so much on my mind.....no this time its nothing work related.....but all what i want to do at home,

 

 - re-arrange furniture

 - buy some stuff for the house (for home decore)

 - buy some plants

 - clean wardrobes

 - call up few family members in US and in India

 - Want to join gym, i defi want to loose atleast 3 kgs in next 2 months time

 - want to do my nails

 - since kayan has been missing school, I want to teach him all activities of the month at home. These days he is slowly getting hooked on to the DVDs, and hope these activities will help to divert his attention and will keep him busy.

 - i would also love to spend sometime with my hubby, going for a drive or have cup of coffee at the corniche.....

 - last but not least, i want few days holidays. i want to go and visit my MOM and my BRO.

 - I want to take Kayan to India for his check up so that my mind then can rest.

 - I want to do all this when i have days off, not when i am working ... i need sleep and rest...

 - I want to join dance class :-)

 

some more things but for now that is it...........

 

 

 

 

 

I have no idea as to why people play games...?? Someone likes to show they are in your favour but then the same person will do something against u or will plot something which you cannot even imagine.... :-|

 

Then sometimes one is asked to compete against someone who is no where in the list.....then one is asked to look up to someone but how when ur knowledge database is richer than someone elses.......everyone has some strengths and some room for improvement so its okay to highlight & groom but how to look up to someone who doesn't have traits of trade ?

 

One has to make a choice.....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I believe in using self defence techniques but such things are teaching me to be who i am not....well too easy for people to give lecture "its all up to you, what you want to become blah blah blah.....' pls reality bites and when there is smoke there is fire......

 

Tomorrow is important day will see what happens...........

 

 

 

Jashn-e-bahaara - Jodhaa Akbar (2008)

Movie : Jodhaa Akbar
Music Director: A R Rahman
Director: Ashutosh Gowarikar
Producer: Ashutosh Gowarikar, Ronnie Screwvalaeda
Starring: Hrithik Roshan, Aishwarya Rai
Singers: Javed Ali
Lyrics: Javeed Akhtar

Jashn-e-bahara Song Lyrics

Kehne ko Jashn-e-bahara hai
Ishq yeh dekhke hairaan hai
Kehne ko Jashn-e-bahara hai
Ishq yeh dekhke hairaan hai

Phool se khusboo khafa khafa hai gulshan mein
Chupa hai koi ranj fiza ki chilman mein
Sare sehmein nazare hain
Soye soye vaqt ke dhare hain
Aur dil mein koi khoye si baatein hain

Ooooo hooooo…

Kehne ko Jashn-e-bahara hai
Ishq yeh dekhke hairaan hai

Phool se khusboo khafa khafa hai gulshan mein
Chupa hai koi ranj fiza ki chilman mein

Kaise kahen kya hai sitam
Sochte hai ab yeh hum
Koi kaise kahen woh hai ya nahi humare

Karte to hai saath safar
Faasle hain phir bhi magar
Jaise milte nahi kisi dariya ke do kinare

Pass hain phir bhi paas nahi
Humko yeh gum raas nahi
Seeshe ki ek diware hai jaise darmiya

Sare sehmein nazare hain
Soye soye vaqt ke dhare hain
Aur dil mein koi khoye si baatein hain

Oooo hoooo..

Kehne ko Jashn-e-bahara hai
Ishq yeh dekhke hairaan hai

Phool se khusboo khafa khafa hai gulshan mein
Chupa hai koi ranj fiza ki chilman mein

Hum ne jo tha nagma suna
Dil ne tha usko chuna
Yeh dastaan humein vaqt ne kaise sunai

Hum jo agar hai gumgee
Woh bhi udhar khush to nahi
Mulakato mein hai jaise ghul si gai tanhai

Milke bhi hum milte nahi
Khilke bhi gul khilte nahi
Aankhon mein hai baharein dil mein khiza

Sare sehmein nazare hain
Soye soye vaqt ke dhare hain
Aur dil mein koi khoye si baatein hain

oooo hoo

Kehne ko Jashan-e-bahara hai
Ishq yeh dekhke hairaan hai

Phool se khusboo khafa khafa hai gulshan mein
Chupa hai koi ranj fiza ki chilman mein

 

It's time to stop taking rubbish from people.

 

Always took everything in a stride, as a feedback, gave benifit of doubt, thought it was situational etc etc but I guess it is now matter of SELF RESPECT......

so now it's time to let people know that do not under estimate others, treat others the way you want to be treated......

 

what happened today at work, if i was to say what someone told me, then that would have reflected on my "Soft Skills"

a)  Interpersonal ability

b)  Organising for result

c)   Initiative and commitment to achieve etc etc

 

Open Forum, discussion groups etc is great way for people to vent out and for higher ups to gather info. later they will keep the gun on your shoulders & shoot.

So it's very important to be " Politically Correct and Technically Sound ".

 

When 7 years back i moved out of a dept, i was told that all i need to learn to be "Diplomatic" rest all I have.....and I guess over a period of time I have kind of managed to be diplomatic but now I have realised that is just not enough, one should know how to play the cards well.....how to use info to your advantage and keep it objective (let me tell you, the Content has to be objective although your intentions can be subjective) this is what i am now seeing and learning.....which i find it very manipulative.

 

Please note, all these terms are very relative, so for me manipulative is, you mean something but you say something or with different intentions.....i hate it but i guess this is what the corporate world is all about it......JUST DEAL WITH IT.

 

All that i would like to say is "If you can't respect others then atleast don't insult/ humiliate people coz by doing that you loose RESPECT"

and this is what someone did to me. The DAMAGE is done.

 

 

 

 

What do you do when you get Superiority complex?

 

It's then a bit difficult to see that people cannot see the most logical thing or unable to act in the most logical manner. You start doubting their rational. It is a waste to have a conversation with them. It is irritating when you have to deal with such people and many a times i find such people even more pesimist.

 

I am very irritated, i think i should not write. I just need to learn to talk to such people in a different manner....

 

 

 

 

 

 

Few days ago i was wondering what will i put in my WILL and atlast i got an answer after watching the Oprah Winfrey show y'day.

 

There was a story about Jason (forgot the lastname) who decided to donate his ORGANS which gave new life to 3 people.

 

And its not that i never thought of being a DONOR but his story reminded me my will which i now can put in my WILL.

Infact from very childhood there were couple of things that i wanted to do & the most important was to Adopt a Baby Girl. Which i am not too sure as of today.

And when in year 2006 when my dad passed away due to kidney failure my will to donate my organs became even more stronger but i dont know how i comepletely forgot about it and never took any step towards it. I am so glad that i happened to watch the show.

 

Well, this is to all those who visit my blog, please add this to your WILL so that someone can benefit even after soul leaves ur body.

 

 

cheers

me:-)

 

 

 

I enjoy working but I am not a workaholic anymore. Up untill 2002, the year I got married, I had no family in Dubai (just Amjad, we use to meet over the weekend) so i had no issues working extra hours but now I need my time with my family, esp my son, who is just 2 years 8 months.  

 

Work to me is a means to an end - that is the comfort of my family and our collective happiness (atleast we are trying). I do not want to compromise.

When I feel that the work is becoming the end rather than the means - I change equations. And I think it's time. I may not earn as much as people who think their work takes precedence over every one else but then i get to be with the people I love and that matters more to me than anything else. Also, I may not grow as fast as others are in their carreer but then i would not like to trade this time with my son for anything. Its not worth it, this means slowing down (or not keeping to others expectations) but i not sure anyone at work even appreciates it. Putting additional hours is expected and if you highlight the workload then people doubt your ability to manage work. Atleast show some GRATITUDE towards the effort one is putting.

 

I feel bad about missing a dealine or when I miss updating stakeholders on few projects but I dont feel guilty coz its not intentional. The workload is too much and ppl have unrealistic expectations. One is asked to say NO but NO is not accepted. Well its always easier said than done, not many can stand by you  and I have realised that  all have vested interest in getting things done, which mean even dumping & making you responsible for everything that goes wrong. But when you achieve something noone even says "Thanks" or "Well done". I dont even care anymore coz i now feel, it is used as a strategy to get more done out of you. 

 

I have worked from 13th - 31st Jan but people think it is due to me reaching late (almost 1 hour everyday for which I ensure I make it up in the evening infact i have put in more hours without even logging it), my coming late has affected my organising skills. Wow, I know people who reach on time, i know who reach before time and i know who sits till late evening but all are in the same boat as me. The influx of work is so much that it is beyond this team can handle. It is showing in the quality of work, slowly subtle politics and bureaucracy is setting in. Well all that matter is your conscience .............!!!!!

 

So here'e to all those who think like me and don't mind risking what it takes to stick by this conviction.

 

Well, there is too much to do tomorrow, while driving I added 5 "to-do list" and then i told myself "Chuck De" (u know what i mean)....anyway who cares. But a word with someone affected me so much that I had to air it out..... But at the same time to resolve an issue I also had a word with someone and I was successful in putting my point across :-), In the coming weeks I have couple of presentations and project deadlines to me met and hope it all goes just as well. End of Jan I had planned activities (must DO) for Feb and so far I have been on track but there are issues which were kept on hold or missed out or nice to have which are no where in POA and which are now creeping up so will see what can be done but as I said as far as I know and I can update other about the priority I am fine. If they then want to chnage it then let them prioratise and fight hahahahaha i dont care....I need to be technically/ politically sound. Yeah I am getting there....It is matter of time.

 

cheers :-)

 

 

 

 

Dont know what to write.....dont misunderstand..there is lots to say but dont know what should i say and what not. Hence for now will just scrible rubbish...

 

everyday i hit the pillow and only one thought comes to my mind "do i really have to go to work tomorrow"....

i wish i could quit the job, well do i really want to...?

 

i think the problem is not job, but the timings.....i start work at 7am and travelling fron Sharjah to Dubai is a nightmare...(i never make it in time) there are many who manages to make it but each person is different and this is one of the main reason why i want to quit, no flexi timings....lack of sleep....Since Nov my son has fallen sick 3-4 times and it gets even more difficult...........no its not an excuse but i am dying to sleep to do things that i really want to do......there are days that i have time to sleep but i would like to do some surfing and night is the only time i can...so i stay up etc etc.....well u can't really explain this to anyone....and i know dont care whether anyone understands me or not....enough of taking life so seriously........there is so much more to it ....i hate Dubai.......

 

well, on a lighter note i remember a quote on my fridge which says "I love Mornings, i just wish it came little later in a day" hahahahaha

 

hummm,,,,fortunately 2moro dubai gov declared a public holiday as Bush is in town....well good for me...

 

i am missing my cousin, i dont think she ever visits my blog but hope someday she does......just want her to know i am really really missing her today...

 

infact it all started this morning it was raining and we both enjoy rains.....101.6 was asking all listeners to send a message as to what is their favourit rain food?

and only one person came to my mind was my cousin, we use to eat maggie masala ..stand in the balcony and eat.....

 

my mom was in town and one thing i miss about her was, the way she and my son use to laugh late night and use to give me tough time to go to bed...they both use to laugh like mad and it was very nice to see...although I use to get mad but still there were times we all use to burst out laughing for no reason.....

 

 

end of random thoughts !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

there was nothing special about todays entry but still feeling good .....cheers

 

 

 

Sometimes you LIKE people coz they are LIKE you             - In others you find something common.
Sometimes you LIKE people coz they are NOT LIKE you      - In others you find things which wish you

                                                                                        could possess.

 

Sometimes you DISLIKE people coz they are NOT LIKE you - In others you find things which you like

                                                                                        in "you".
Sometimes you DISLIKE people coz they are LIKE you        - In others you find things which you don't

                                                                                        like in "you".

 

These things could be : Qualities, Character, Dreams, Thoughts, Perceptions, Attitude, Approach etc. 

 

What is important ATTITUDE or INTENTIONS?

How would you see a person with right Attitude but wrong Intentions?

How would you see a person with wrong Attitude but good Intentions?

 

I have to think about something and i am sure i am going have another late night...

 

Challenges are Challenging :-) I like it !!

 

 

 

Noone  is  WEAK,  it's  just  everyone  has  weaknesses.  We  all  can  be STRONGER,  if  we  could  learn  to  manage  our weaknesses. .........copyrights..Darshana

 

Discover  yourself,  you  will  be  amazed  to  know  the  REAL  you. 

 

Recently  while  having  a  word  with  someone,  she  mentioned,  the  desperate  need  of  others  in  one's  life  is  due  to  low  self  esteem.  So  then  people  go  to  any  extent  to  retain  people  in  their  life,  this  could  be  by  loosing  their  own  self  respect  &  they  don't  even  realise  that.

 

Wow,  I  never  realised  it,  I  need  people  in  my  life  all  the  time,  I  usually  have  no  problem  saying  sorry  if  it  could  resolve  a matter.  I  saw  this  as  sign  of  maturity  that  one  should  not  prolong  the  issue  if  it  can  be  resolved.  Well  I  guess  one  needs  to take  a  balanced  approach,  I  understand  that  what  it  means  is  "do  not  bend  so  much  that  YOU  Break  down nor  be  so  stiff  that  RELATION  Breaks  down".

 

Life  &  relations  are  all  about  being  fair  to  yourself  &  others,  taking  a  balanced  approach.  The  question  is  HOW  to  achieve  that?  Well  I  won't  go  any  further  on  this  topic.....

 

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Hummmm...... off  late  I  have  been  thinking  a  lot  about  too  many  things  &  one  of  them  is  about  doing  something  that  I  really love.  I  love  to  dance (although  I  have  two  left  feet  hehehe),  I  want  to  join  a  dance  class,  atleast  once  a  week  so  that  I  can look  forward  to  doing  something  that  I  love.

 

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I  am  not  at  all  religious  &  hence  I  wish  different  religions  did not  exist,  existance  of  NO  RELIGION  would  have  been  ideal. Unfortunately  not  all  our  wishes  can  come  true. 

 

That's  all  for  today,  keep  surfing  I  have  more  to  say  in  the  coming  weeks.

 

Darshana :) 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I had a chat with my boss and my hubby on different topics & some random thought on that

 

Honesty & Diplomacy: Honesty will screw you up & diplomacy is very important to progress in life. (personal as well as professional)

Also honesty & trust & truth are closely related.....

 - Honesty is not appreciated

 - To be honest you need to find a person whom you can confide in ..well difficult to keep up the trust.

 - Truth is not a statement it is an act, it hurts and difficult to digest whether expressed by words or action.

 

Well then what is the conclusion, don't be HONEST?, don't TRUST anyone? and does it mean don't speak the TRUTH.

Just a though ...up to you to decide ...but believe me this is what is then called "DIPLOMACY".

 

Jealousy: At times, we dislike people not because what they have but coz we couldn't achieve what they have. It is our own failure which makes us hate who they are.

 

How important is it to do PR at work: sell your skills not your values (self). Reality bites, in this process most of the time we first sell our values and only then people buy our skills.

 

Last but not least most of time we try to teach others

1. what we know.

2. what we can't or couldn't do.

and in both the cases we think we know the best and it is a right thing to do.

 

1. Falling in love.

2. Laughing till your stomach hurts.

3. Enjoying a ride down the ocuntry side.

4. Listening to your favorite song on the radio.

5. Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside. ddd

6. Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm, fuzzy towel.

7. Passing your final exams with good grades.

8. Being part of an interesting conversation.

9. Finding some money in some old pants.

10. Laughing at yourself.

11. Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends.

12. Laughing without a reason.

13. "Accidentally" hearing someone say somthing good about you.

14. Watching the sunset.

15. Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in your life.

16. Receiving or giving your first kiss.

17. Feeling this movement in your body when seeing this "special" someone.

18. Having a great time with your friends.

19. Seeing the one you love happy.

20. Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her perfume.

21. Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories.

22. Hearing some telling you "I LOVE YOU"

Updating my blog after a long long time, right now we are on a holiday visiting US so i do have many things to share but there is no time. Some good times and some sad news but may be later sometime till then i thought will post something that can make others smile and hope u can relate to the above :-)

cheers :-)

 

Have you ever lied....I am sure you must have.....;-)

 

Well what i am talking about is something like

 

   you want to say that you missed someone but you still act as if you didn't

   you say you love someone but then you say oh i was drunk

   you say i wish i never see you but deep in your heart you wish to meet that person now...

 

it is not that harsh but wouldn't it be nice to hear the truth....

well it was just a though on how we all "lie"....

the best part is we lie in such a way that we ensure other person gets to know the TRUTH... :-)

 

Well the thought simply brings a smile on my face :-)

 

cheers

Me:-)